It’s time to make peace with your body, discover your strength, and learn to live without shame or apology.
Hey. Can I tell you something? Since my pre-teen years I’ve been fat (curvy, plus-size, round-bodied).
And for more than a decade, I hated my body. I was disconnected from it. I saw my body as my enemy and tried for years to control it by dieting or punish it through disordered eating.
I felt as if my body was wrong and somehow had nothing to do with the “real me”.
I was putting off my “real life” until I lost weight. Then I could be myself. Only then I could have permission to go on dates, enjoy time at the beach, make bold moves in my career, stand up for myself, and live out loud.
(Yeah, a yoga class. Stick with me here.)
I didn’t know anything about yoga. I heard of it through a weight-loss program at my gym. Some trainer at the gym told me, “You should go to yoga. You can do it on your rest day because it doesn’t count as exercise but you’ll still burn calories.”
(Today I’d throw this dude a serious side-eye, but let’s stick with the story…)
I didn’t think fat people were supposed to do yoga, but I went anyway. I remember being the only bigger person in the class. I don’t remember much else about what we actually did in the class.
What I do remember was this: getting in my car, driving home, and about 10 minutes into the drive, my little soundtrack started back up.
Maybe you have one of these. It’s this mean little voice in your head that never shuts up that says, “You’re ugly, you’re fat, you’re stupid. Why did you say that thing? Everyone is mad at you. You’re a loser.”
So I realized, if my negative self-talk loop started back up, that meant it had stopped.
I’m super type-A, perfectionistic, overanalyze everything, and tend to never slow down. I’d struggled with anxiety, depression, and disordered eating since my pre-teen years, and this was like a miracle balm.
I couldn’t have articulated it then, but I know now that what happened was that I was in my body for the first time since I was a kid. Really truly present in my body. Let me tell you what I mean.
As a child, I had a much more integrated experience of my body.
I would run and jump and play and do the monkey bars because it was fun. I didn’t do it because I thought I “should” exercise because that’s what virtuous people do, or because I wanted to change my size, shape, or weight.
I developed early, so that by the time I was 12, I had the body of a 25-year-old. This caused me to get attention from men, who had no business giving that type of attention to a child.
When this happened to me it was like I got transported out of my body for the first time in my life.
From that time forward I was no longer just moving through the world un-self-consciously in my skin. I was always aware of how I was being seen, perceived, watched.
As I passed into my early teen years, society quickly trained to be conscious of my body at all times. What it looked like, how my clothes fit (or didn’t), and especially where I measured up in comparison with other women.
As my body developed and I settled into my adult figure (decidedly plus-sized), I just disconnected from my body altogether. I decided I’d rather just forget that I had a body, and become a human brain that sort of lugged around a meat suit because I had to.
And that’s when I started to dim my light. I dumbed myself down so I wouldn’t be intimidating to men, I let boys cheat off my paper at school, and I stopped moving my body for fun.
At yoga, I discovered that it actually did feel pretty good to move my body. And my body was good at yoga. Sure there were some shapes that the teacher asked me to make that just were not happening. But for the most part, when I’d practice, I would leave class feeling calm, grounded, and sure of myself.
In these yoga classes, I got to know my body. I became comfortable touching and moving my flesh—my skin, fat, fascia, muscles, and the bones underneath.
When your body is the opposite of what society says is worthy or good, it can be painful, disorienting, and difficult to spend too much time really inhabiting your (imperfect, human) body. Mindful movement made me more physically certain of myself.
Yes, my body got stronger. Yes, I learned to make the shapes that the teacher was asking for, and I learned to move with intention. But my mind got stronger as well.
The practices of yoga and mindfulness led me down a path of radical self-acceptance. I discovered the movements of fat acceptance and body positivity and found the wellness paradigm of Health at Every Size. Eventually I quit dieting and gave up intentional weight loss altogether.
You see, growing up, I never saw folks who looked like me represented in a positive, inspiring light. If someone like me was shown on TV or in an ad, they were pathetic, a joke, chasing a man who didn’t want them, sloppy or lazy.
Fat was the worst thing you could be. It definitely wasn’t the “real me”.
I decided I didn’t want anything to do with this body. I would just wait to start living my real life until I lost weight. Until I was closer to what society considered beautiful.
I probably don’t have to tell you that living like that is pretty miserable. Lots of us feel as if our bodies have betrayed us. Lots of us are postponing “living our real life” until we lose weight, have our degree, get a better job, or have a relationship.
Are you ready to break free, be a body-positive rebel, and claim the space you take up in the world?
Through the practices of yoga, mindfulness, and radical self-acceptance, you can reframe your thoughts that are telling you that your body is the thing that’s holding you back from your dreams.
And with a supportive community to back you up? You won’t fail at this.
See, I’ve done it. I’ve learned to stop hating my body, to accept every part of myself, and to stand in my power and claim the space I take up in the world.
Nowadays, I’m feeling good in my body, making bold moves in my life and career, and asking for what I want in life (and getting it).
I can help you find your path on this radical roadmap. And along the way, you can feel supported, understood, seen, and held in a safe community space where we can work on this stuff together.
I’m not going to lie to you, this life-changing work is challenging. But I’ve discovered the secret to success and forward momentum here. It’s being in community.
There is a better roadmap that already exists. And it’s got nothing to do with changing your body or fitting into some arbitrary beauty standard. Wanna travel there with us?
I’m Amber Karnes. I’m a yoga teacher, ruckus maker, social justice advocate, and the founder of Body Positive Yoga.
I’ve made it my life’s work to help folks just like you build unshakable confidence using the tools of yoga, mindfulness, and self-acceptance.
And I want to invite you to join me on the path to making peace with the body you have today.
And it’s not just me – there are tons of people waiting to help you along the way. This community I’m talking about? It’s like you finally found all the BFFs you’ve been looking for, and they have a map to get you exactly where you want to go.
“Before I joined the Body Positive Clubhouse I never believed yoga was something I could do. I didn’t think my large body would be able to move in the way needed to reach the poses. But now I practice yoga everyday and am documenting my journey with raw photos. Without the Body Positive Clubhouse I never would have had the confidence to try yoga let alone share pictures of myself practicing.”Katie
“I have noticed myself responding not reacting so much & when I do react to situations quite often (not always!) I recognise that I’m reacting & I can tell myself to calm down and take a pause. Brilliant!
And even if I only do a short practice…my body says thank you & sings for a while afterwards. When I’m practicing consistently I make better choices in regard to food & other life things. And that’s a big win!”Lee
“I just wanted you to know how grateful I am for your chair practice videos. I recently fractured my foot and was worried I couldn’t move my body until it was done healing. But your chair practices are incredible. My body feels wonderful, but my foot is safe. Thank you so, so much.”Jenna
The Body Positive Clubhouse is an interactive, monthly membership to an inner circle of body positive, supportive, likeminded humans and a vault of online body positivity, self-acceptance, and yoga resources.
There’s new content every single month. On the first of the month, Body Positive Clubhouse members get:
“Before I joined the Body Positive Clubhouse and went on a yoga retreat with Amber I was unable to sustain a consistent yoga practice.
But now I feel eager to get on the mat and kick off my day with empowering movement and grounding practices.
I feel like I’m doing yoga with a friend when working with Amber.”Deb
INQUISITIVE HUMANS CRAVING RADICAL SELF-ACCEPTANCE
If you’re not satisfied with the status quo that says you must be thin to be happy, you’re in the right place. If you’ve seen other folks embrace radical self-acceptance and reject stigma and shame, and you’re ready to take steps toward living out loud, you belong here.
The Body Positive Clubhouse is all about learning tools and techniques from mindfulness to yoga to reframing thoughts, and learning to implement them into your life in a real way that will help you to confidently claim the space you take up in the world.
RAW BEGINNERS TO YOGA OR FOLKS WHO HAVE HAD A BAD EXPERIENCE AT A YOGA STUDIO
If you’re curious about the practice of yoga but aren’t sure if you have a “yoga body”, are intimidated to step into a yoga studio, or just aren’t sure how to get started, I can help you begin the right way. Maybe you’ve even been to a yoga studio and the teacher just ignored you or singled you out.
You won’t encounter that here. With mindful sequences, step-by-step yoga pose breakdowns, and instruction on props, modifications, and adaptations, you’ll learn that your body is exactly right for yoga.
SOMEONE WHO WANTS A MOVEMENT PRACTICE WITHOUT THE BAGGAGE
If you know that you want a way to move your body that feels good and makes you stronger, but you don’t want the punitive, image-focused environment of some gyms or personal trainers, you belong here. Body Positive Yoga is a movement practice that’s weight-neutral and body agnostic.
We embrace a Health at Every Size® paradigm of wellness, and the focus here is on what our bodies can do and how they feel. You will not find a focus on changing your size, shape, or weight, talk of “burning fat”, or judgment about your fitness level or goals.
“I’d recommend joining the Body Positive Clubhouse to a friend because it’s so much more than a valuable resource for yoga, and body positivity. The community is amazingly supportive, and I feel like I can consider Amber a friend even though I’ve only interacted with her through social media and email. This space has been such a blessing to my life for all that it provides.”Angela
“By joining the Body Positive Clubhouse, I have realized that it is ok to start where I am. I’m doing short videos and just taking it all in. I feel confident that I will continue to learn and grow in my practice because of the gentle guidance that Amber provides. I wish life was a Body Positive Clubhouse!”Aundrea
“Body Positive Yoga helped me discover that I was not alone.
Although I practiced yoga over 13 years ago, at that time I was focused on losing weight and many other exterior things… Time and life ceased this practice for a while.
When I landed on my mat again, Body Positive Yoga helped me grow in a supportive way. Although I did feel like the only bigger bodied yoga student in the room at local yoga studios, I can’t believe how much relief and support I felt by discovering Body Positive Yoga’s blog and videos online.
(Amber) not only addressed that sun salutations can be a challenge in a bigger body, (she) gave me some options to access this in my practice. Fast forward a few years, with this small spark, I deepened my practice and continued on my yogic path. I now teach accessible yoga!”Valerie Hesslink
If you’re ready to learn all about body positivity, build unshakable confidence, make peace with your body, and take your yoga practice into your own hands, simply choose your payment option below and click the button to join us…
“Just did the hour-long practice and feel great! After a session like that, I always feel like the Tin Man from the Wizard of Oz when he gets all oiled and polished up at the Emerald City, everything’s moving again.”Rebecca
“I just did the hour long class from the first month and really loved it. I haven’t done yoga in a long time and it was just challenging enough, without making me feel defeated.”Kate
There’s new content every single month. On the 1st of the month, Body Positive Clubhouse members get a whole big digital package of goodies:
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The Body Positive Clubhouse is more than just a website. When you join, you’ll become part of a supportive community of like-minded and like-hearted folks.
In our private, members-only Facebook Clubhouse, you can ask questions, share struggles and triumphs, get feedback, and connect with other body-positive folks like you in a safe and encouraging environment. Check out this recent thread. I mean it when I say it’s a supportive group!!
Plus, I often throw special live hangout sessions where I’ll answer your questions, offer inspirations, and help you make sure you feel personally supported. I want you to get the most out of your subscription. Plus, all these calls will be recorded, so you can watch anytime if you can’t make it to the live event.
There are folks of all genders in the Body Positive Clubhouse. While most of our members are women and femmes, we also have a few cis-men, non-binary folks, and trans* folks of varying genders.
All genders are affirmed and welcomed in this community. Even though many of us come from an experience of being female, it is my hope that folks of all genders will continue to join and add their voices to the conversation!
Yes. The yoga classes are designed by me (Amber Karnes, founder of Body Positive Yoga).
I specialize in teaching an adaptive, inclusive yoga practice for diverse body types. I have been doing this a while, in fact I travel the world training other yoga teachers how to work with students of all shapes, sizes, and abilities. I’m also personally in a fat body (I’m a US size 24-ish) so I know what it’s like to practice in a body that doesn’t just fold up in a tiny ball.
My classes are low-pressure, judgment-free yoga. We have chair classes, no-up-and-down-off-the-floor classes, restorative classes, and more challenging strength building classes. There’s definitely something for you here!
I get it. Me too. That’s why I became a yoga teacher.
I want you to know that if you had a bad experience in a class, or if the teacher ignored you, it’s not your fault. Your body is not the problem.
Most likely, the teacher didn’t have the tools they needed to help you take your practice into your own hands and adapt it to your unique body.
But I know how to help you do that, and I can’t wait to help you develop your own strong, stable, vibrant yoga practice.
Plus, I create the classes each month based on what requests come in from members like you. So if I don’t have what you need? I’ll create it.
My (Amber’s) views don’t represent everyone in the community for sure. But my politics show up in my work, so don’t be surprised if you encounter these topics or beliefs here:
If you have any questions or concerns, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can discuss!
Paying attention to ourselves is difficult, and lots of us have gotten the message at some point in our lives that self-care is selfish. This is some bullsh*t! I say, no more!
The coolest thing about body positivity and self-care for me is that in a world that tells us to hate our bodies and that our bodies aren’t worthy, that means engaging in self care is totally radical, rebellious, and revolutionary.
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” -Audre Lorde
Putting our own basic human needs at the center of our lives is radical, especially for women, because traditionally the burden and responsibility for caring and raising children (and by extension our communities) is shouldered by women. This is even more true for women of color, who have spent generations in servitude to others or even as property. Self-care is a radical act.
Living for others is a quality so deeply ingrained in us, that it often translates into the complete abandonment of our own needs, which end up being less important than the needs of our children, partner, family, work, or community.
But self-care is a prerequisite for autonomy, so it is fundamentally important (especially as feminists) that we reject the patriarchal notion that women must neglect themselves in order to serve others.
You deserve to have this care for yourself. And the rest of us in the Clubhouse? We’ve got your back.
“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” -Eleanor Brownn
I get what that’s like. I understand feeling like letting yourself down is the default, or that you might not be able to do this. I also understand that self-care can feel totally awkward and fake if you’ve neglected yourself for a long time.
I think it’s completely normal to have fears of disappointing yourself. The thing is – learning to trust yourself is a muscle you have to strengthen. The more you practice, the stronger and more sure you become.
My advice? “Fake it til you make it” is a completely legit strategy here. What you think about what you’re doing isn’t nearly as important as what you’re actually doing. And eventually going through the motions will feel natural. I speak from experience. It’s not easy but it’s oh so worth it.
You can experiment here. Sign up for a month (or just try it free for 2 weeks) and see how it goes. If you don’t feel any better, if the community doesn’t inspire and support you like I’ve promised, you can always go back to how things were before.
But I’m betting you won’t want to.
You can spend as much or as little time working with this material as you’ve got. From a few minutes every day to a couple times a month.
But I get feeling too overwhelmed to take time for self-care. I am a solo-business-owner and have a wealth of responsibilities and demands on my time.
I have found the best way to be effective, efficient, and accomplish my goals in life is to intentionally set aside time to take pause, recharge, and build back up my emotional reserves.
You deserve this. If you are feeling the pull to join us, commit! Show up for yourself. Prove to yourself that you can trust yourself and your body.
You can set aside time to make peace with your body. Learn to cultivate movement and mindfulness practices that will help you come away stronger and ready to face the world.
We’ve got some tools to help you remember to practice and set aside space for it, too.
I’ve done my level best to make this a huge value for the money (for the cost of one drop-in class at a traditional yoga studio, you’re going to get hours worth of classes and other content every single month, not to mention the 125+ classes already in the vault).
That being said, I don’t want financial concerns to be a barrier to you being part of this community. I do offer sliding scale and scholarship options for folks with financial hardship. Marginalized folks (people of color, gender minorities, and disabled folks) move to the front of the line when it comes to scholarship opportunities.
Please contact me to discuss by emailing email@example.com.
I fully believe that radical self-acceptance and practice of yoga have the power to profoundly change your life forever. I’ve created massive change in my own life, my self-image, and my body through these tools that I’ll be sharing with you. I believe in this program with my heart and soul.
That said, if you’re not happy with your subscription, you can cancel anytime. No hard feelings!
Subscriptions to the Body Positive Clubhouse are non-refundable, and here’s why:
I offer a full-access, completely free 2 week trial. You can check out the site, watch (and download) as many videos as you want, and be part of the Facebook community. In 2 weeks, you can definitely get a feel for whether this is the right Clubhouse for you!
The monthly membership is billed month-to-month and you can cancel anytime with 2 clicks of your mouse. If you’re not sure if you want to commit for the whole year, try a month or two and then you can always upgrade later!
If you’re feeling on the fence about joining the Clubhouse, please take some time to check out my other FREE stuff: the Body Positive Yoga blog, 7-Day Yoga Exploration, Shore Up Self-Care course, Body Positive Rebellion, and my many free online workshops. If you dig those resources, then you’ll LOVE being part of the Body Positive Clubhouse.
Any questions? Send a note to: firstname.lastname@example.org.
You being happy with your membership is my number one priority. Seriously. This is my life’s work and I am committed to making sure you get the most out of your experience here.
If you have technical issues or need any other help, just email me at email@example.com and I’ll take care of you.
I hope you’ll join this inner circle of like-minded and like-hearted folks today! We are ready for you!
“Body Positive Yoga is a game-changer. Amber is the teacher I’ve been looking for—inspiring, smart, intuitive, and grounded—and the subscription site provides the structure and inspiration I’ve been needing. The range of yoga practice video times and topics make it easy for me to integrate a yoga practice into my daily life.
But Body Positive Yoga is so much more than a series of yoga flows—from detailed explanations of the body and poses to simple modifications for a variety of human shapes, sizes, and ability, these videos truly make yoga accessible (and understandable) for everyone. Add in the mindfulness techniques, self-care tips, and supportive community and you’ve got all the tools you need to keep on the radical self-acceptance path.”Lindsey
“I highly recommend joining Amber and the community of body positive yogis. Why? The conversation. The community. The support. And above all, the quality and care of each of Amber’s videos.
Sitting at your desk all day? There’s a video for that. Stuck in a hotel room on a work trip? There’s a video for that. Looking for standing-only practice? There’s a video for that. Just getting started? Amber has you covered. More advanced? There’s plenty for you too.”Melinda
By joining the Body Positive Clubhouse, practicing yoga, using the tools of mindfulness and self-care, and being supported by a community of others who “get” you, you can learn radical self-acceptance and positively experience your physical body.
Are you ready to take the first step? Let’s do this together. You don’t have to do it alone.